Forgiveness Leads to Love

FEBRUARY: THE MONTH OF LOVE

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Don’t hold onto anger, hurt, or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.” — Unknown

Considering the fact that this month is February, the month of love, I couldn’t think of a better time than now to discuss how to deepen in the love that you feel for both yourself and others.

Valentine’s Day is finally here, and while the focus is, of course, on romantic love, I encourage you to broaden your definition of the meaning of love. Let this day simply be a day of love, in ALL its forms. Whether you’re expressing your love with a spouse, a partner, family, friends, or even yourself by exploring adult dating options (explore more here about the same), or any other way, let your focus be on the way you show up in your world and the way you share your love with others.

One of the best ways to reconnect with your love is through the simple act of forgiveness. It’s tough to feel love when you’re stuck in a feeling of anger, resentment, hurt, or pain. Therefore, why not use Valentine’s Day to release any anger you feel toward someone else (or even yourself)?

When you release the energy of anger, hurt, or pain, you’re essentially freeing up space inside, which allows you to connect more fully to the love that already resides within you.

CALL TO ACTION!

Okay, so how do you release your anger and free up that space, you may ask? Well, one way is by writing a letter to someone who elicits negative emotions inside of you. Write the letter with the intention that this person never has to see it! That way, you can write whatever feelings come forward.

When you’re done, burn the letter, and say an affirmation such as, “I free myself from any anger or hurt that I feel or once felt toward this person. I wish him/her only love and joy.” Try this out, and see if you can experience your heart open, just a little bit more.

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