When Social Anxiety Meets The Dating World

When Social Anxiety Meets The Dating World

August 20, 2018 Anger Management Communication Skills Empathy Stress Management 0

Can you be socially anxious AND also be able to date?

If you struggle with social anxiety, you might believe that the answer to this question is NO….how can you have social anxiety and be able to go out on dates? Well, good news…. there ARE ways that people with social anxiety can make dating work!

Anyone experiencing social anxiety knows that it can be an extremely life hindering battle. The persistent nervousness and accompanying negative thoughts can be crippling and sometimes it’s difficult to leave home unless it’s absolutely necessary.

However, we were born to live in community, to love and be loved. Social anxiety can make it difficult to initiate romantic relationships, but that does not mean we don’t want to have physical and emotional intimacy with someone special.

Having social anxiety does not mean that you have to live in isolation or that you won’t be able to find that special someone. You just need a different approach, not only towards your love life but also in general so you’re able to ease that anxious feeling. Whether that be by testing out some self-help mechanisms like reading, having a pamper, or trying out some marijuana in florida! There’s plenty to try.

Here are 5 DATING tips that can help you work through your SOCIAL ANXIETY:

Practice Celebrating Who You Are

A hallmark feature of social anxiety is the fear of being judged. People with social anxiety are often their own worst critics. Usually, the only person judging you is you. Minimizing self-judgement can be done by frequent positive self-talk.

Answer the following questions:

What is it about your personality that a romantic interest would find attractive? What physical qualities do you have that you like about yourself? Try to name a few. Frequent acknowledgement of these attributes can help build your confidence.

Create a Mock Dialogue

Consider the social settings where you might meet someone for a date. Mentally place yourself in that scene. Next, think of a few lines that you can easily memorize and could use during your date. Having a few phrases memorized can help to ease you into the flow of conversation. By using this technique, the pressure of saying the “right” thing can be reduced, which can reduce your overall anxiety.

Don’t Hide Your Nervousness

It’s ok to be nervous! Remember that your romantic interest is also human, and could also be feeling nervous during a date. Dating is not easy for anyone and first dates can be especially difficult for everyone involved.

Admitting that you are nervous is ok and most likely not something that your date would perceive as negative.

If You Get Nervous Keep Going

For those with social anxiety, it is common to want to run away from conversations after you think you made a mistake or said the “wrong thing.” Learn to accept those embarrassing moments. Maybe you can turn them into a joke. When dating, one thing that people look for in a potential partner is a sense of humor. Whatever you do, make sure that you own the awkward moment and embrace it!

Meet People Under as Little Pressure as Possible

When you are looking to date, you might want to avoid social settings that are large. People with social anxiety typically find partners at small venues and not around large crowds. Small groups tend to ease anxiety.

You can also try meeting your “hot date” through a friend. Let your friends know that you are looking to date and ask them if they have any acquaintances they think would be a good fit. Meeting someone through a trusted individual tends to ease pressure and you might find a good match!

When to seek Professional Help:

Before seeking professional help, you may want to try some treatments yourself. Some of the products on budexpressnow.net are very popular forms of treatments for people suffering from all forms of anxiety. It is possible to purchase medical marijuana from dispensaries across America and Canada (just search for ‘kushmail canada‘) so it is easy to try this. If you’re worried about smoking marijuana, there are different ways to consume the plant and help your anxiety. You can protect your lungs by vaping, or even trying edibles that are very much available online; for example, this thc syrup canada based. If you continue to struggle with social anxiety, the best method to gain better control of your life may be through therapy. Consider reaching out to a therapist or joining a support group.

I hold social anxiety groups at my Sherman Oaks office. Contact me at (818) 426-2495 for more information on overcoming social anxiety!

Anita Avedian, LMFT, CAMS-IV

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Certified Anger Management Specialist IV

Director of Anger Management 818

Social Anxiety and Dating

Disclaimer: The recommendations given in this article are not a replacement for therapy. Please consider seeking help from a mental health professional if you are experiencing mental or emotional distress. If you have a medical or psychological emergency, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. Thank you.


Social Anxiety Disorder. (n.d.) In Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Retrieved from adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/social-anxiety-disorder.


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