Tag: negative thoughts

Reframing Thoughts

Utilization of anger management skills and tools is an active process. Implementing them does not come to a complete halt after we notice our decreasing episodes of rage and minimal aggression. It is constant, intentional decision making, alertness to identify our triggers, and choosing to take time to pause and reflect when everything within us…
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April 25, 2018 0

Being Your Own Partner

FEBRUARY: THE MONTH OF LOVE “Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.” —Buddha The month of February may bring up many emotions for people. After all, it is the month that contains that either beloved…
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February 5, 2013 2

Journaling Through Anger: Part 1

People talk a lot these days about the benefits of journaling. They say that journaling can be highly effective for helping people process their emotions. Seems easy enough, right? Well, simply writing your feelings down on paper can be effective, but to get the most out of the journaling experience, consider experimenting with different methods.…
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January 15, 2013 2

You! Yes you! Are you sure that you are not a 3′ tall green space alien?

Sometimes, when working with clients who are dealing with co-dependency, low self-esteem, or anger management issues, I have used an illustration that seems to be an effective part of their treatment. I ask the client if they know what schizophrenia is, and if they have ever seen a person suffering from this illness. If the…
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April 16, 2012 1

Three Key Thoughts that can Defuse Anger Quickly

Sometimes it is hard to remember all the tips and remedies for defusing anger. When you experience a situation with someone that results in feeling upset, the following three principles are basic to dispelling and/or preventing anger from arising. 1. Think: This situation is not meant personally against me. This person is having a bad…
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October 7, 2011 1

The “You”, The “Us”, and The “Me”- How Ignoring Yourself in a Relationship Can Lead to Anger

Did you know that there are three parts to a relationship? Relationships are made up of the “you”, the “us”, and the “me”. Many times people in relationships place the focus and the emphasis on the “you” or on the “us”. This means that they are constantly focused on what the other person needs or what…
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May 5, 2011 0

16 Ways to Reduce Stress

According to the American Psychological Association, stress in America is on the rise. In 2010, 73% of parents surveyed reported family “responsibilities” to be the number one reason for stress in their lives. Thirty-two percent of parents reported their individual stress to be extreme and rated their stress level an eight on a scale of…
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