Tag: fear

Anger As A Secondary Emotion

Anger is a secondary emotion. It’s a protective emotion covering more vulnerable ones such as shame, and hurt.


January 26, 2015 0

What Rock Climbing Can Teach about Managing Fear and Stress

Imagine yourself hiking along a meandering dirt path with a friend on a breezy day, enjoying casual conversation as well as the warmth of the sun and the coolness of the wind upon your skin. In the midst of your serenity, your eyes briefly dart upward and ahead, and (gulp) that’s when you see it:…
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January 8, 2013 0

Anger Management is Sometimes as Simple As Assertiveness Training

Written By: Michael Hecht, MFT A few hints which may make it easier for someone to manage their anger because it is often not about anger so much as simply being assertive in one’s relationships. I recently had a client who complained that she had difficulty controlling herself from getting into altercations or heated arguments…
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March 22, 2012 0

There is No Reality, Only Perception

“There is no reality—only perception.” Jay McGraw in Life Strategies for Teens “You don’t react to what happens to you (in this instance, someone saying “hi”), but you react to your interpretation of what happens to you (in this instance, how you interpret what that “hi” means). How you see and interpret certain events is…
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November 21, 2011 0

Reacting versus Responding

Many people wonder how a situation escalates so quickly. Questions such as, “What happened?” or “How did he end up leaving?” are asked, yet there is not much success with finding a fulfilling answer.

When we react, we are emotionally charged. Responding rather than reacting requires for you to wait until you have cooled off, and worked through the issue, prior to replying to the situation. For example, if my supervisor criticizes me at work, I will feel angry and resentful, and I will act withdrawn (reacting). How I can respond is to recognize that my work does not have to be perfect, and that my supervisor was probably only trying to help me (responding).

If you are interested in learning more about reacting versus responding, you can contact one of our clinicians to work with you.


August 8, 2011 0

Feelings

Feelings are a normal part of the human experience. All human beings are born with the capability of feeling and thinking. Healthy individuals are able to use their reasoning (their thinking) to understand their feelings and decide how to respond to them. Individuals that grew up in a dysfunctional family, where emotions were not expressed…
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April 9, 2011 0